RIGHT RELATIONSHIP
RIGHT RELATIONSHIP
Dale Carnegie in his book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” suggested that, to “win friends and influence people, ”one should express “sincere appreciation”. From a biblical standpoint, we should treat others right simply because it is the right thing to do, not because it will give us some advantage in this world. God does not call us to be enthusiastic, outgoing individuals with a salesperson’s personality. He calls us to be Christians who follow in the footsteps of our Master (1 Peter 2:21). If we do that, we will usually get along with others. When a man and a woman marry, they expect to “live happily ever after.” However, that is not always what happens. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16; see also Matthew 19:3–9)—but sometimes other options are unsuccessful, even for a Christian. How can a Christian cope with divorce? Here are a few suggestions:
1. Make sure you are saved. If you need to repent, do so (Acts 8:22). Do not abandon your faith. Congregations sometimes treat divorced Christians as outcasts. Regardless of how you are treated by others, you must not leave the church—for that is leaving the Lord.
2. Do your best to get rid of negative feelings. Circumstances may bring a divorced person sorrow, grief, anger, bitterness, or even self-hatred. Indeed, your emotions may fluctuate from one of these to another. It is important to admit having these emotions and determine whether or not they are rationally based. If, indeed, you were at fault, repent and do your best to make things right. Recognize unfounded feelings as worthless, even harmless, and fill your mind with positive thoughts instead (Philippians 4:8).
3. Do what is best for the children. Regardless of how you feel, do what is right. Parents should not talk adversely about each other, misdirect anger toward the children, or try to win their affection with gifts. Give children what they need. Punish them, if necessary, for their own faults—but not for their parents’ sins.
4. Make home life as normal as possible. Children should not feel deprived of a normal home life because of a divorce.
5. Get help. Others in a similar situation can understand and will be willing to share your troubles. Christian families will help you and your children in any way they can. God is good, and He will hear your prayers.
6. Think carefully before remarrying. A divorced Christian may long for a companion or believe that children need two parents in the home. However, at least two questions must be considered: “Do I have a scriptural right to remarry?” and (2) “Will I select a better spouse than I did the first time?” Many divorced people choose another mate like the first one. Statistically, second marriages are less successful than first marriages.
Word Affirmation: “For ye shall go out with joy, and be led forth with peace." = Isa 55:12 (Don't just say it, mean it!)
“God calls us to be Christians who follow in the footsteps of our Master."
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